29 Sep I’m A Failure
We all know of the group Alcoholics Anonymous. I’m thinking about starting a group called Failure Anonymous. I probably won’t be the only one joining the group, because I have no doubt there are a lot of women out there feeling the same way.
The pandemic has affected women harder than men. We’re more likely to take on the additional responsibilities of tending to our children’s needs while they’re at home. Because we’re eating more at home, we’re more likely to be the one responsible for cooking and grocery shopping. Handling all of this, in addition to the responsibility of growing our business can make us feel like we’re failing – failing our kids by not giving them enough of our time; failing our family’s health by cooking pasta again(!), and failing our partner by not contributing equally to the family’s finances. Let’s not even touch on how we’re failing ourselves by not taking care of ourselves.
The chatter in our head is a contact reminder of all our failures – with the infrequent reminder that we’re doing our best. Even though I have many tools to help me move out of the chatter, I’m human, just like you, and do feel the harshness of my inner critic’s words!
In my program, Secrets of 6-Figure Women I share this video which is a great reminder that failure has to be used as a catalyst to our greatness. The most successful people speak about all the failures in their life and how these lessons help them to learn and grow.
Here are some things to consider when you’re being emotionally hijacked by your inner critic:
- What can I learn from this situation? – From every failure, there is a lesson to be learned. As we build our wisdom from our life’s lesson, we also build our strength and determination.
- What can I do differently next time? – There are so many paths to success and not all of them are right for the current circumstances. Be aware as you ask yourself this question because it can easily open the door for more self-criticism from your inner critic.
- Why is this important to me? – We’ve all been put on this earth for a reason. You’re doing the work you do for a reason. When we can tap into the WHY of what we do, it activates our internal motivation. This is our energy power-pack that helps us to jump up from our falls and start running again.
- How do I make a difference in the lives of others? – Every job, every business, every activity has a positive impact on the life of another person. When we bring joy, assistance or value to someone else, we feel happy, fulfilled. Wouldn’t it be great if we were able to feel happy and fulfilled all the time? Tap into this feeling and it will quiet the voice of self-doubt and remind you that you are so not a failure!
The most powerful to remind yourself that you’re not a failure is to be part of a community of women who are experiencing the same challenges and feelings you are. You’ll find that community by being a part of our Secrets of 6-Figure Women program
If you’d like to learn more tools to help you build your self-confidence and be a part of a community of women who understand what you’re feeling, join me for our next Secrets of 6-Figure Women program.
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